Raj Rishi

It is true that most people are born with certain genetic traits which make them temperamentally happy or sad. Some people, for example, are introverts, pessimistic and sad by nature while others are extroverts, optimistic and happy.

Moreover, everybody’s idea of happiness depends on their circumstances, past experiences, thoughts, convictions, mental and physical states, health etc.

Nonetheless even inherited traits of nature can be changed if a person makes a dedicated and sustained effort.

Here is a list of 50 dos and don’ts that should either be conscientiously eliminated or cultivated depending upon their nature.

Things or traits of nature that make people unhappy and should be assiduously eliminated:

1. Fear of what people think about you
2. Fear of the unknown.
3. Fear of death especially in those who are old and seriously ill
4. Fear of failure
5. Inferiority complex and its natural corollary lack of confidence
6. Lack of clarity about your life’s goals and the resultant loss of conviction about how to achieve them
7. Having unachievable ambitions or over-expectations
8. Always feeling jealous of the people who you think are better off than you. But remember that even the most blessed looking people have dark and painful corners which they hide from the people or keep contending with privately. So don’t feel jealous of them
9. Always looking at the negative points of others
10. Over-attachment with people especially those you love resulting in the fear of losing them
11. Regretting unhappy past mistakes
12. Not being able to forgive people
13. Lack of physical exercise may make you sick and unhappy
14. Not enjoying the little blessings of life
15. Thinking of others’ spouses to be more beautiful than your own
16. Always cribbing about what you do not have and others have in ample measure such as wealth, cars, houses, etc.
17. Thinking other people to be more intelligent and fortunate than you.
18. Living under the fear of social taboos
19. Not having a good sex life
20. Not living in the present
21. Wrong choice of careers/professions
22. Telling lies and living under the fear of being caught
23. Lack of contentment
24. Lack of gratitude
25. Not counting the blessings

The above mentioned points not only mention what you should not do, they also, by implication, suggest what you should do to be happy. Here is list of some more   habits that you should consciously cultivate in order to be happy.

1. Be thick skinned against unjust criticism. You can’t quarrel with everyone who criticises you.
2. Don’t try to please all the  people all the time
3. Perform  a  light exercise-- yoga, pranayama daily
4. Take light, simple and nutritive diet—you can, sometimes, also eat what you like but within limits. Don’t altogether deprive your taste buds of the good things of life.
5. Have no expectations from those you love
6. Have a good sleep at night
7. Have a list of powerful and inspiring quotes that are particularly relevant to your nature
8. Do you keep brooding because you have been bullied by someone stronger than you? You are not alone. Even your bully may have been bullied by a greater bully. Remember the song: Everybody’s somebody’s fool, everybody’s somebody’s plaything
9. Be realistically positive and hopeful- there is a limit beyond which neither Fate nor God is going to favour you
10. Accept life as it comes
11. Don’t be dependent on others for your happiness
12. Try to live within your means/limits
13. Keep moving with life
14. Don’t run after the strictly  forbidden and unreachable  fruit
15. Cultivate optimism and zest for life
16. Avoid  slothfulness—take  regular shower, wear neat clothes, maintain yourself reasonably, use good perfumes as they are known to lift the mood
17. Keep yourself busy with creative and physical activities that will not only give you happiness and satisfaction but may also tire you and give good sleep
18. Do some selfless service and earn blessings
19. Drink lots of water. It will wash the  toxins out of your system
20. Cultivate the habit of letting go off
21. Think of the less fortunate people than you whenever you tend to look at your inadequacies
22. Keep company of the good, happy and humorous people; read inspiring books; watch comedies on television programs; listen uplifting music
23. Don’t look beyond your partner for sexual gratification
24. Regularly chant some positive affirmations to be happy

Please share your views and experiences on being happy in the comments section below.

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