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Have you ever noticed how comfortable society is with playing the blame game?
Are you yourself comfortable with the blame game, or instead, do you take responsibility for your reality, warts and all?
When I first learned about the Law of Attraction, one of the things that had the biggest impact on me was the realization that the blame game was a total waste of time. After all, when you are the creator of your own reality, there’s really no one else to blame for any of it, is there?
However, we’ve been raised in a world where the blame game is status quo. Turn on a television or a radio and you’re sure to see or hear it. There’s blame in politics, reality television and the news. There’s blame in our songs, our movies and our soap operas.
We blame other countries for the problems we have in our own. We blame our presidents, senators and congressmen for crime, poverty and social dysfunction. We blame our parents for how screwed up we are and we blame our friends for not being there when we need them.
In fact, even in this short time, I’ve managed to blame society for our need to blame!
As you can see, it can be hard to stop playing the blame game, even when you know better.
The truth is, there’s always someone to point the finger at if you’re looking for a scapegoat. The Law of Attraction will bring you whatever you believe in, and when you believe other people are to blame, they’ll show up in droves.
However, though the blame game may be the status quo, it doesn’t really help any of us at all.
See, you ARE the creator of your reality, whether you like it or not. Everything that you are living and experiencing is a reflection of your conscious attention and focus.
Now, this doesn’t mean you are a bad person when things don’t go your way. It also doesn’t mean that you intend for bad things to happen.
However, it is the way this game of life plays out. Your reality is an accurate representation of your focus and beliefs, and nobody else’s.
As I’ve gotten into the teaching people about the Law of Attraction, I’ve often found myself tip-toeing around this subject, because I don’t want people to feel bad about things like illness, poverty, violence and dysfunction.
However, to be a truly effective teacher on this subject I must stress the most important point about the Law of Attraction: we are each totally responsible for our own realities.
Now, I realize some people will be offended by this statement, particularly if they are dealing with something uncomfortable in their lives.
It can be stressful to feel responsible for the “bad” things, especially when you live in a society where the blame game is so common. When you see the whole world up in arms and angry about every little thing that goes wrong, it feels natural to beat up on yourself when you feel responsible for the unwanted events and circumstances.
After all, if no one else is to blame, naturally you have to blame yourself, right?
The blame game doesn’t help when you point the finger at others, but it also doesn’t work when you point the finger at yourself. Directing anger and rage at anyone is counterproductive to conscious creation.
It’s much more effective to accept what is in peace, but this requires tolerance for everyone, including yourself.
The truth is, even if the rest of the world is pissed off about the “negative manifestations,” you don’t have to be. You don’t have to point the finger at others, and you don’t have to point the finger at yourself. You don’t have to blame anyone for any of it because ultimately, you don’t have to feel badly about any of it.
You are an eternal creator, who is infinitely powerful. If you create some negative crap along the way, it’s ok. You’ve got an eternity to clean it up.
Additionally, everyone you meet is also an eternal creator, so even if they are struggling, or sick or even dying, it’s ok. They have an eternity to clean that up too.
All we are doing right now is playing a never-ending game of creation. That’s all. It never ends, so none of it really matters when you really get down to it.
If we’ll be playing this game for an eternity, a little bit of struggle really isn’t a bad thing.
After all, if everything was always smooth sailing, this would be a pretty boring game, especially if it lasted for an eternity. A little bit of struggle shakes things up, and makes things more interesting. It also makes us better creators.
Getting yourself out of a massive whole you’ve dug for yourself requires you to really tap into your power to create. Overcoming pain and struggle requires you to believe in yourself, and that’s really all the Law of Attraction is about.
The negative moments give you an opportunity to really test yourself. This is probably why we feel so much exhilaration when we finally overcome a problem that’s been plaguing us.
Just remember, that to overcome pain and struggle, playing the blame game doesn’t help one single bit. Every single second we spend pointing the finger is another wasted opportunity to transform the unwanted into wanted. Every moment spent feeling helpless is a moment we disconnect ourselves from our power.
Blaming anyone, including ourselves, prevents us from believing in ourselves, and believing in our ability to create. With the Law of Attraction, you must believe in order to receive. Blame strips you of your belief, and therefore your power, every time.
Be kind to others, and be kind to yourself. You are growing into a more efficient creator moment-by-moment. Every struggle and painful moment may be a reflection of you are, but you alwayshave the power to transform the darkness into light. You’ll harness your creative power much more efficiently when you accept what is in peace.
In the end, it is love, not blame, that will carry you to happier times. Let your love for others (and, more importantly, yourself!) shine through-even when bad things happen. After all, you’ve got an eternity to get it right, so it’s no big deal when you get it wrong.
ॐ Namasté - Blessings!
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