Category: Astrological News Written by Margaret Gray & Armand Diaz Views: 1420
Approx. every 18 months Venus symbolically travels retrograde in the skies. Every 8 years it goes retrograde through the same sign of the zodiac, so if you count back you can track the previous retrogrades through airy, communicative Gemini: May 2012, May 2004, May 1996…Looking back on what was going on in your relationship life at those times, can help shed some light on issues that may arise this time round. Each repeating transit offers us the opportunity to integrate a deeper layer of similar issues.
Venus is renowned as a key planet in relationships because fundamentally it’s about what we value. In choosing people to surround ourselves with, a key criteria is whether we value them or not. Without value there is unlikely to be respect, and therefore love cannot exist. However, the piece that is often uncomfortable to look at, although we are all aware of it, is that without self-value which is intrinsically connected to self-love, it’s impossible to value and love anyone else. However well aspected our natal Venus might be, there are few of us who haven’t struggled with this issue at some point in our life.
The gift of Venus going retrograde, is that it offers us some space to focus on our self-value, as well as our overall values. Are they congruent or dissonant?
Venus in Gemini is naturally curious, inviting us to explore what is going on in our thoughts and helping us to join the dots as we consider what led us to this point, and what might benefit from some tweaking! Relationships with siblings and friends are particularly under the microscope at this time. Siblings are our first relationship with equals in the world, where we get to practice dealing with differences and conflicts. They often offer a template for friendships and love relationships. For only children that role falls on friends and often on cousins, as well as sometimes on internal imaginary siblings.
Friendship is a key component in all romantic relationships, and during this retrograde we are likely to explore if this is present with our partner, and ways we can regenerate it if it is no longer there.
Healing unfinished issues from past relationships gives us more freedom in our current relationship dynamics. Venus retrograde is an optimum time to give some thought to what we learned from both romantic relationships and friendships - with no judgement! Communication is critical in all relationships, and many relationships end painfully due to an inability for one or both individuals to communicate clearly. Retrogrades offer the possibility to resolve some of the confusion and hurt that can be left due to lack of clear communication. Writing a letter to the person you’d like clarity from, or with information you were unable to share in the past, can bring peace - even after many years.
But our first task is to give some thought to our own self-value and our friendship with ourself. If you were to meet yourself, would you like to be friends with you? What is your self-value based on right now if you put aside your career/job, family, education, home…? What can you do during this retrograde to connect with and strengthen your self-value? Reminding yourself of where Venus is in your natal and in the composite chart, is helpful as they describe what you and your relationship most values, as well as ways to nurture these values.
Keep safe and well everyone! MG
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Margaret Gray, MSW. and Armand Diaz, Ph.D., set up 'Relationships and Astrology' in 2016. They offer relationship astrology consultations to individuals, couples and families, as well as courses in Relationship Astrology. They can be contacted via: www.relationshipsandastrology.com
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