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Breaking This Pattern Changed My Relationships

Breaking This Pattern Changed My Relationships

Dear friends,

If you were to ask me what I think one of life’s biggest lessons is, I would without hesitation say, relationships. If you stop and think about it, relationships infiltrate every single part of our lives.

How we relate to our partners, our spouses, friends, family, colleagues, strangers, the environment, animals, and ourselves, affects our lives in some way, shape, or form. Basically, relationships are everything, and if we want to live the very best life we can, it’s important to know the ins and outs of cultivating healthy, meaningful relationships.

This week, I want to talk about what I think is one of the biggest obstacles to healthy relationships: codependency.

A codependent person is someone who is fully reliant (in his or her actions, beliefs, opinions, and/or identity) on another person. Codependency can show up in a multitude of ways: romantic relationships, familial relationships, friendships, partnerships, and even in the teacher/student sphere.

Codependency leaves no one happy: not you, your loved ones, nor anyone around you.

Years ago, while maneuvering my way through an incredibly codependent romantic relationship, I was given the book Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. Up until that moment, I had never labeled myself as a codependent. I thought the term strictly defined people in dysfunctional relationships with an addict.

I thought I was someone who was loving, loyal, and willing to do whatever it took to make my relationship work (and I was miserable, by the way). While reading the book, I felt like the author was speaking straight to me, telling me what I needed to hear, and helping me to identify how to break these tendencies and ultimately be happy in my relationships.

Identifying the problem, and becoming aware of your own actions is always the first major step towards creating healthy change. If you are unclear if you’re displaying codependent tendencies in your relationships, I’ve put together a list of some signs to look out for:

  • Putting the other person’s needs above your own
  • Feeling like you cannot live without a person
  • Relying your happiness on someone or something else
  • People pleasing to an extreme level
  • Having rigid expectations of what you think will make you happy
  • Losing your sense of boundaries and what you will and will not tolerate
  • Participating in things that go against your best interest
  • Ignoring your intuition or advice of loved ones
  • Feeling stuck, trapped, or unclear how to make a change
  • Loss of your own sense of identity and desires

If any of these signs touched a nerve for you, fear not. Like I said before, the very first step to solving a problem is identifying it. If you’re wanting to dissolve the codependent behaviors, I’ve also created a short list of action items to get you on your way:

  • Begin a daily meditation/mindfulness practice that works for you
  • Establish a strong, centered relationship with yourself
  • Learn how to take care of yourself first
  • Get clear on what you want in your life
  • Cultivate a sense of self-confidence and self-worth to believe you are worthy of your desires
  • Get clear on your boundaries: what you will and will not tolerate
  • Seek professional assistance when necessary

I hope these lists help you on your way to dissolving any codependent behaviors you may be facing. I want you to know that it is not shameful to feel this way, I’m pretty confident we have all felt these feelings at one point or another.

I also want you to remember that you are all worthy of wonderful, loving, supportive relationships. When we take the time to clean up our sides of the street, we create the space for an amazing relationship to enter our lives. I would love to hear your thoughts or experiences with codependency, please share with us in the comments below.

xo, Michelle

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logo2Michelle Maros is Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life's Creative Director and resident writer. She has a degree in Journalism from Indiana University and is also a certified holistic health coach through the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and registered yoga teacher with trainings with Anuttara Yoga Shala and Strala Yoga. Michelle has a deep desire to help people find happiness in all areas of their lives, and truly believes the Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life movement will bring lasting change to the world. Michelle splits her time between Florida and New York City and loves connecting with people from all over the world. If you'd like to contact her, she can be reached at 
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