How can I tell the difference between love and a soul call? The definition of love has always been up for debate. Personally, I define love as Love is something that makes you feel complete. It is not a desire to save someone or get something from them. It is where you are in harmony with another and they are in harmony with you. There is acceptance for who the other is, warts and all. There is a flow with love. It is a connection on all levels. The soul call, on the other hand, normally comes with a sense of compassion and need, often overwhelming desire to help another. There is generally a sense of sympathy and need to want to make their life better or an obsessive feeling that you must be in their life in some way. I suggest using your feelings and asking if this is a soul call? If it feels right, then the answer is generally yes.
Okay, I think I have a soul call. What do I do now? Your first soul call can be embarrassing. Often people tell me that once they have identified that they have a soul call, they have no idea how to approach it. They say they feel foolish or silly going up to someone and giving them a message. My advice is to tell them: I have this feeling I have to tell you something and it’s up to you how you decide to use it. Then you can just tell them. Very seldom do people think you are crazy as it’s often what they need to hear. Not all soul calls are messages, though. Some might be helping someone out with a problem of some kind. Generally, when someone is called, it’s because they have the tools and abilities to provide a solution.
Traps to watch out for. A soul call, misunderstood, can lead to unintended consequences. For instance, when it is mistaken for being in love, you might enter into a relationship or even end up getting married. Once the call ends, it’s quite normal for the feelings associated with the call to disappear, too. So the love and pull you felt will no longer be there and you may be now bound to a person you do not wish to be with. It is easy to misunderstand why a feeling or pull is no longer there. You may struggle to regain it or worse, pretend to yourself that you still feel the same way. It’s also worth noting that sometimes the person you are helping can become obsessed with you. Because you helped them, they may want more of what you have to offer or they may even desire your energy. (Certain people give out a very comforting or reassuring presence that people can become addicted to.)
Test soul calls. Sometimes the caller may not be ready for help. You may get a pull to help, however you may find that that pull might disappear them moment you give assistance. You can’t do anything more. It might be just a matter of timing. Sometimes people need several attempts before they can do what they need to do for themselves. As always, keep on checking your feelings. If they change, it means something in the equation has also changed.
When a soul call goes both ways. A soul call doesn’t have to be just you aiding another. It can work both ways. You might bring what is needed for them, but the person also can bring what is needed for you. Such calls are a blessing and both parties can really grow.
What you get out of answering a soul call. Generally, what you gain is experience. The more calls you are able to answer, the more proficient you become with answering and solving them. This will allow you to grow as a person and people will seek your aid, just by word of mouth.
Final thoughts. Soul calls are more common than you may believe. Understanding them may put everything into a new perspective for you. It’s even possible to have several calls at the same time. If you get one, embrace it, but don’t become a slave to it. Some can last moments and some can be for years, but be ready to move on when it’s time or accept new ones when they come. They are a blessing for all and a way to help heal this world.
By Gary Leigh