This article was posted by CrystalWind.ca

A+ A A-

Where You Get Your Sense of Self-Worth

Where You Get Your Sense of Self-Worth

So much of our difficulties can be entangled with our sense of self worth — from whether we take care of ourselves with good habits to how we are in relationships to how much confidence we have at work.

Think about your biggest difficulties (other than problems at a national or global level) … how many of them could be resolved if you had an unshakable confidence in your self-worth? If you felt whole, complete, and incredibly worthy?

You could create and put your creation out into the world with confidence, and even market it to others.

You could launch a business or venture, create an organization to serve others, teach something you care about.

You could speak confidently in public, put your ideas out there, stand for yourself. You could set boundaries, express your needs, take care of yourself.

This all comes from a strong sense of self-worth.

But we are taught from a young age to get our sense of self-worth externally:

  • Praise or validation from others
  • Likes and comments to validate us on social media
  • Accomplishments, awards, rewards
  • Success, wealth, a nice house, nice things
  • Nice clothes, things that make us feel attractive or cool
  • Sex, attracting a mate, interest or attention from others
  • People wanting to spend time with us, showing an interest in us

And so on. The problem with this kind of external validation of our worth is that it is fleeting. Sometimes we’ll get it and feel good about ourselves, and many times we won’t get it and will feel discouraged, rejected, miserable. And then we’ll seek more of the external validation, because that’s what we know to do when we need to feel better about ourselves.

So … what can we do? We can seek to find our self-worth from within.

This can be a lifetime exploration, but some places you might look:

  • Notice the good in your heart
  • Have compassion for yourself when you’re feeling difficulty
  • Be curious about yourself
  • Try to notice your determination, perseverance, commitment
  • See if you can find your sense of play, joy, and wonder
  • Appreciate how you appreciate things
  • Spend time with yourself, and care about how you feel
  • Give love to yourself and others, and appreciate the love that flows from you
  • Pour yourself into one act, giving all of yourself, and appreciate that as well
  • Keep coming back to a project or habit change effort, even when you fall off
  • Journal, reflect, contemplate, meditate, find time for quietude and stillness
  • Go on a meditation retreat and explore your inner self
  • Find ways to explore bringing out your joy, divinity, play, curiosity, and more
  • Notice the abundance of love that you have
  • Find wonder at who you are in every moment

Some of these might be challenging — that’s OK! Notice how you respond to challenge, and find wonder in that as well. Keep exploring, keep bringing curiosity, keep bringing wonder and love.

What would it be like if you had an abundant sense of self-worth always available to you?

Credit

Zen Habits is about finding simplicity and mindfulness in the daily chaos of our lives. It’s about clearing the clutter so we can focus on what’s important, create something amazing, find happiness. My name is Leo Babauta. I live in Davis, California with my wife and six kids, where I eat vegan food, write, run, and read. Source

© 2022 crystalwind.ca. All rights reserved.

Pin It

CrystalWind.ca is free to access and use.
Please support us with a small gift of $11.11 or $22.22 or $33.33. 

or
Please buy us a coffee!
Thank you!
ॐ Namasté - Blessings!
"Life is an echo, what you send out comes back."
© 2008-2022 crystalwind.ca. All rights reserved.

Featured Writers

Featured This Month

Page:

Solstices and Equinoxes : An Esoteric Perspe…

Solstices and Equinoxes : An Esoteric Perspective

The Seasons The seasons of the year are caused by the tilt of the earth’s a... Read more

Amber

Amber

Amber is the fossilized resin of the amber pine tree, petrified over a perio... Read more

Leo

Leo

LEO July 23 - August 22 Spirit: To rule Ego: Egotistical, optimistic, bra... Read more

Sun in Leo

Sun in Leo

An Overview of Sun Sign Characteristics for Leo The ruler of Leo is the Sun... Read more

Mabon

Mabon

Mabon 2021 will begin on Wednesday, September 22 and ends on&... Read more

Mabon Modern Style

Mabon Modern Style

The Mabon season begins somewhere around the 21st-22nd of September and cont... Read more

Fall Equinox Meditation and Prayer Celebrati…

Fall Equinox Meditation and Prayer Celebration

The fall or autumnal equinox marks equal hours of light and darkness, but pa... Read more

Sunstone

Sunstone

The New Beginnings Stone Sunstone (Oligoclase) is dedicated to the Greek su... Read more

Birth Totem - Salmon

Birth Totem - Salmon

Birth Totem Salmon Birth dates: July 22 - August 21 Birth Totem is: Salmon... Read more

Peridot

Peridot

The Humour Stone Peridot stone makes the life of the wearer prosperous and ha... Read more

Red Raspberry

Red Raspberry

Reminds you to be grateful for all of life’s ups and downs. Gender: Feminine... Read more

Peridot: The Healer's Stone

Peridot: The Healer's Stone

Peridot has been used as a Power Stone for centuries. Peridot fosters emotio... Read more

Mabon Magic: Ideas For Fall Decoration And R…

Mabon Magic: Ideas For Fall Decoration And Ritual

Welcome (almost!) to Fall! We’re turning the Great Wheel once again, toward ... Read more

Ripe Berries Moon

Ripe Berries Moon

Sturgeon - Garnet and Iron - Raspberry - Red July 23 to August 22 Th... Read more

The Hazel Tree: August 5 - September 1

The Hazel Tree: August 5 - September 1

Celtic Symbol : The Rainbow Salmon Zodiac Degrees : 12º00` Leo - 8º59` Virg... Read more

© 2008-2022 CrystalWind.ca. Site Creation by CreativeInceptions.com.
Web Hosting by Knownhost.com

X

Right Click

No right click