Category: EFT Written by Evelyn Lim
Women often approach me for help to deal with their stress.
Their stress can be anything from dealing with a money or work-related challenge, relationship problems, not feeling “good enough”, low self-love to anxiety issues. They would have been holding on to anger, worry, insecurity and frustration for a long time before asking for help. (Understandably, most of us face resistance with getting assistance.)
Some would share about experiencing the same repetitive themes of abandonment and rejection in their lives. Thus, when we get together in a session, we usually begin by patiently peeling off the layers to determine the root cause of their issues. Invariably, we would find out that these issues stem from their past – primarily in childhood. As a result, we are led to working on healing their inner child.
It is often an “aha” moment for clients to realise that childhood trauma does not necessarily arise from a major singular event (such as a car accident, divorce, etc) but it can also come from repeated childhood emotional neglect and disregard.
A number of clients would reveal that they have emotionally absent parents who are not responsive to their needs. They had hardly been hugged, cuddled, assured or encouraged as children. As they got older, they were also mostly left to their own devices, without much supervision or guidance. Some even had to shoulder the extra responsibility of taking care of their siblings or also, the emotional burdens of their parents.
Growing up, they had no one to share their emotional stress with. They would keep it all inside. If they were to express their insecurities, they would get shut down.
Their feelings were rarely validated by mothers who were insecure and emotionally neglectful themselves. Fathers play a part if they were not responsive or unsupportive too. Their wounds are invisible but would somehow would infect their adult life. It’s why our work becomes helping their inner child heal and to release suppressed emotions.
By the time clients seek help, they would have hit their 30s-50s. These are critical years where they could have started a family and thus becoming parents themselves. Stress levels could escalate from trying to manage work and family together.
Here is where EFT tapping comes in.
Applying EFT Tapping for Inner Child
EFT tapping involves using our fingertips to tap on specific meridian points on the face and body for emotional release. The process of tapping makes it different from other therapeutic methods for inner child healing. It is recommended because the body keeps the score.
Almost all the clients I have worked with see the image of a hurt, sad and lonely little girl. The intense emotions held by their inner child offer us an excellent opportunity to use EFT. We work on releasing the range of emotions and bodily sensations by visualising the tapping on the various meridian points for “little Sally”, “little Amy” or “little Wendy” etc. until they subside or change.
EFT tapping is helpful for restoring safety and calm to a frightened and distraught child before any cognitive processing can be made more easily. While the inner child is an image conjured in the mind, tapping via visualising the process has been found to be effective. Once calm is restored, we work on helping her process her thoughts. Broadly, this covers reparenting and guiding her with setting boundaries, clarifying values and letting go of beliefs that no longer serve her.
Rewriting beliefs is a powerful process. As I’ve discovered, a belief change at deep levels from “I am not good enough” to “I am enough” or “I’m unlovable” to “I am lovable and loved” brings about positive transformation in rippling effects on client’s situation today.
From applying tapping, the inner child starts to feel lighter, calmer, more free and supported. Due to a belief change, she is also a lot more empowered. She may even start to play, where she had few opportunities previously as a young girl. I’ve got clients with inner child who wanted to go on a swing, run in the playground, or just have fun with neighbourhood friends.
Then, as a final step, we work on reimprinting a new energetic picture that now replaces the old image of a wounded inner child. This new picture is embodied and integrated through an energy healing process.
What We’ve Learnt from Applying EFT for Inner Child
In terms of takeaways, what is reassuring for clients to discover is that it is not their fault or that they are not weak or powerless.
They might not have had the happiest childhood but they can certainly take charge of their life with greater confidence going forward.
On my end, I fill my notebook with client stories and feedback and what has worked and what hasn’t. Clients often report to experiencing a change from the session itself. However, it is with repeated sessions that they see a change taking place externally. In fact, benefits are amplified even more for those who follow through with consistent tapping in-between sessions. I’ve got clients who made big money breakthroughs as a result of the work we did. Refer to clients’ feedback here.
Inner child work with EFT and energy healing has proven to be therapeutic, powerful and effective. Because of the changes I see in my clients, I’ve become more passionate about helping others in this and have also renewed my calling.
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Much love and abundance always,
Abundance Coach for Women Online
Self-Love Healing Specialist
Certified EFT and Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner
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