What if every loss is secretly leading you home to the Now? ~Crystal Wind

Hello Dear Friends,

How do I deal with the losses in my life? | Sanhia on Losing Everything and Finding the Now

(Taken live from a recent Spiritual Awareness Zoom group)

Good Now!

Participant One: (Laughing) Oh boy! It's been kind of an interesting time. I've had a lot of endings this past five years. Every single time I think I'm going to get a break from another ending, I get another ending. I've been in a tsunami of endings. The big thing is I'm sitting here wondering what it's going to be like just to be fully alone. I've gone through the alone thing with Sanhia before, but this alone is sort of different. I love being alone (laughing) with myself. I've found myself really struggling being alone without an anchor in the natural world, and without an anchor with my furry kids in my life. I'm down to one, having had enormous years, ten or twelve years, of doggy love and cat love. Just moving around and giving up everything that possibly meant anything to me over the past five years; just letting it go and moving forward. But I'm in a place where everything is standing still now. I don't even know how to be in that space any more. That's kind of my right now, very, very raw. I'm down to one cat that I've loved. I don't know how well he is either; I've got a vet appointment in two months. I needed a break; I just lost one of my kids – one of my furry kids. I've gone through a lot this year – lost four furry babies, one dog and three cats. I can be alone with me. I'm just not sure how to be alone without that furry love. That's my new thing, (laughing) sitting in the unknown without love for my kids. (laughing/crying) Anyway, that's me.

Participant Two: I can bring you some cats.

Participant One: I know. I just felt that so much. I thank you. It's just that having that love for so long, it's like when you've had a furry kid in your life, whether it's a dog or a cat, for so long, there's something about that when you lose them you lose a part of you because they've literally been there with you for a decade plus. So, thank you for the new; I'm just trying to figure out how to be without the old. It's a big loss, (laughing/crying) a loss, yeah.

Sanhia: Perhaps you will enjoy or not enjoy the message that is going to come out February first.

Participant One: I love all of your messages.

Sanhia: It speaks to the story because what has died is not your animal, but your story.

Participant One: Yeah (crying) I know.

Sanhia: The story is always painful. Freedom is being without the story, just being in this present moment. This is the gift that your furry friends have left you.

Participant One: Lonely

Sanhia: It's lonely if you are comparing it to something else, which is called the story. If you are simply with what is here right now, loneliness is not possible. Loneliness is a comparison in the mind to something else. What is in the present is always absolutely fantastic. All that it requires is that you be with it instead of in the mind and the story somewhere else, wishing you had your story instead of what is. That's always painful because you can't; you can't have that.

Participant One: Over the past five years I’ve released the stories, at least I thought I did, of all the things I've loved. To be with the kids, my furry kids ... and as I lost them one by one, sometimes two at a time, it's been hard to stay out of the past. It's just been such a lot of memories and ghosts all around me all of the time. It's really been a hard struggle to stay happy in the present with that emptiness, which I know is not empty but it feels it. It's a new me. I haven't been without a kid, a furry kid, since I was a teenager. I know it is supposed to be this way and I get it, but I miss their love so much. It's just the only thing that kept me grounded during this time that I've gone through losing so many things I loved so much. So anyway ...

Sanhia: Now you have graduated and you no longer need that. There is an enormous difference between allowing those feelings to be there – of grief and sadness – but letting go of the descriptions and just feeling the emotions that are there and letting them be there as long as they are there, and connecting those feelings with your mind thoughts.

Participant One: Lots of tears

Sanhia: You're not trying to chase them away, not trying to change them, not trying to fill your life with something so you don't feel that, but simply letting it be there and feeling it fully.

Participant One: I managed the loss of my partner of thirty years. I didn't lose him; we separated, divorced. But I lost the land that I loved so much where I felt home for the first time. And all the furry kids came from there. They were a part of the past that made that story that made me feel connected to something I love so deeply. I don't have people in my life. I'm alone. I'm okay with that; it doesn't bug me. I just don't know how to be alone without that connection to the love that an animal gives, whether it's out in nature and I'm observing or whether ... whatever. So, it's just letting go of that story and being with it. I have one furry kid left. I love him so much. There’s nothing that matters more than him right now. I don't matter. Nothing matters and I don't know where to be with that. It feels as though I'm ending my life. Truly it does. (crying) It feels like my life has just stopped and it's done, and I know that's not the case but it just feels that way. And it's like you suggested, just being with it, what it is, feeling it. I appreciate that because I get up and I work and I come back and I feel completely zombied.

Sanhia: And you know what's going to happen with your last surviving cat.

Participant One: Yeah. I'm going to sit alone at my house. I don't know what that's going to be like. It's going to be really awful (crying).

Sanhia: Notice that your mind has a horrible picture for what is to come. Is that a future you desire? Of course not, so let these thoughts go and come back to now. You also mentioned losing a part of yourself. Where is this part? Who is seeing it being lost? Can you lose the part of yourself that is aware of what is happening now? Notice that when you are telling your story you are creating something you don’t desire, and, more importantly, you are avoiding fully feeling what is present. Be brave enough to stay with the feelings while letting go of the story. What motivated you several years ago to come and meet here and to talk with us?

Participant One: My move. Leaving everything.

Sanhia: What were you hoping would happen from that?

Participant One: That I would find peace in the mayhem.

Sanhia: How did that work out for you?

Participant One: It has worked out really well. If there is one place where I feel this crazy life all makes sense ... it's here.

Sanhia: There is only one thing that we talk about here, even though we may go off on different benders here and there about this and that. We talk about being aware of the truth of who you are, being aware of your divinity, being aware that you are an awakened individual not paying attention to your awakeness – but looking in other directions and at other things – and encouraging you to be aware of what is. There is nothing that is more powerful in the healing process than healing that separation between the truth of who you are and your story – than losing, than letting go. Whether you choose to let go or you create it so that it looks like the universe made you let go, it's all the same. When it is time to let go it is the letting go that happens, and no amount of trying to hold on will give you anything but blisters on your fingers and your palms. There is no holding on. What's gone is gone. When you think you have something, you don't have it; you have your story about it. So, you have your twelve years of having this animal with you, but where is that? Is it here now? Or is it the story in your mind that keeps you away from being here now? Well, it's very hard to let go of the story when you still have the main character from the story in your life.

Participant One: The ghosts (laughing) I call them.

Sanhia: You had that cat as a kitten. Do you still have the kitten? Are you grieving for that kitten bouncing around, playing with things, and rolling around on the floor? No, you still have the cat so you hold on to that, but the truth is every part of your story dies in every moment. To whatever degree you try to hold on to it, it's pain and suffering. So, these losses are enormous gifts from the universe to say, "You can actually let go right now if you want. You can be here present. You can be with what is." Every ego mind has an absolute terror of looking and seeing what is. Everyone has a terror of that. Ego believes you are your story; without your story you are nothing. Truth is ... with your story you are nothing. Without your story you're eternity; you're everything; you're God; you're divine. As they say: "selling yourself for a penny on the dollar." Holding on to a story that's worth a penny, instead of the infinite riches of now, of the truth of yourself, of your divine nature.

Participant One: Just on that note about how you're explaining all of that which makes so much sense, it feels right the way that you're discussing it and I see it. It's the after-the-fact, and I kept thinking about it so much this time around ... why does it hurt so much.... every time? I've gone through so many losses. It should be a lot easier. It's the wrapping up of this period of time that no longer exists because it's past. I'm sure many of us have been down this road where the heart is just wounded from letting go of things you love. We're very aware that the present moment is absolute, only existing. Every moment is every moment and the ghosts are just stories and it's so human of us to want to be connected to something that we love so much.

Sanhia: You are not connected to the story. If you want to be connected, you do it every time you step outside your door into the beauty of the winter, into the trees, into the birds, the deer, whatever animals you see about, even the people, even the cars. That you are absolutely connected to everything that surrounds you at every moment, unless you are in your mind saying, "I wish this weren't here and instead I had this cat with me." So, you would rather have the cat that you can't have than this universe of riches that is right here, right now. Ever changing – not the same universe – constantly moving and changing. You would get bored if it were the same all of the time. Yes, there is grief, so feel it and let it move and then notice what is around you. When you ask yourself why it still hurts or why it hasn’t become easier, you are in your mind and separate from the real world in front of you. Your story always separates you from what is and causes pain and suffering. Notice that and come back to the now.

Participant One: I do settle back into that place where I get what the "what is in front of me" is, whether I am making a cup of tea or whether I'm walking out into a snow storm – that's my present moment. I feel the joy, like shovelling snow gives me so much joy it is ridiculous. I love being out there in the middle of the night shovelling snow, watching it blow around, being out there, warm. I love all of these things. (laughing) That's my journey; it's to find the joy within this human experience. It's always alone that I enjoy myself and my time. So, stepping out in the world and interacting with people, I'm happy and I share happiness. But that deep love, that deep something.... I’m just in a kind of nothingness, and I think that's what I'm supposed to be. That nothingness is really what does exist. It just feels really empty of love. It's more about a void of anything that really matters anymore. That's the weirdest place to be. Feels dead -- and yet you're not dead – but you feel dead. All of that sensual love that I felt for the furry kids, there's a bond whether you’re at nature, whether you're having a great human experience of family – whatever it is. You feel full. It's just been really strange having the fullness, but the emptiness, all at the same time.

Sanhia: You have hit the nail right on the head. Everything and nothing exist simultaneously. You are one with everything – with every object, every experience, every thought, every feeling, and every person. At the same time, none of it exists; it is all illusion. The place where everything and nothing intersect is in the now. The mind is absolutely incapable of understanding this. That is why you let the mind and the thoughts go; you give up trying to understand and just welcome whatever gifts God or the universe present to you. There is no story here. There is just life. Mind wants to find a story. This only leads to pain, confusion, and suffering. There is no story. There just is what is – and that isn’t even real! These are all just words and are not the truth. They are just pointers. Take your question about how can there be fullness and the void at the same time and keep looking within yourself for the answer.

Participant One: We also talked about – once upon a time – the service to others spectrum. That can also be a depletion of our own self love. Where we are always wanting to help others, as opposed to filling ourselves first so that we are full for everything out there. I think my energy, lack of energy, for the human experience comes from.... I just find it exhausting. I truly do. The other space I don't feel depleted from. Even when I'm going through natural world or furry family trauma, it's a different feeling of grief. The human experience is just a big journey; I know it's the one we're supposed to be on so it's okay (laughing). It's all part of everything. It's just interesting going back to ourselves, always. Loving ourselves says a lot about what we can do in the world when we are that full.

Sanhia: Usually when we talk about projection, we are talking about judging others for the things you don't want to see in yourself, but loving another is also projection. All the love that you direct toward your cats is a projection of loving yourself, realizing that you couldn't love them without loving yourself. Because you have the belief that you are not worthy of love, you project that love onto your animals. Notice that and look at the part of you that is self judging. Keep looking until you find the truth of your loveliness, of your divinity. The cats are there to remind you to do that. What a gift! In the same way that whatever causes you to not be around people, what judgments are there ... that "Oh, thank you for showing that there is the place where I don't love myself; there is the place where I judge myself." You may avoid people some, but we all know that you can't do it all of the time, even if it's just the clerk in the grocery store or the person who is throwing all of the fatty, sugary foods in their basket and you are thinking, "Oh, how can you eat all of that junk?" (laughing) So constantly you have this gift of the moment of seeing where you are not loving yourself. The mind wants to say, "No, this is about them. This is about my cat not being here." No, it's never; it's all projection. Whether it is love or judgment, it's all projection.

There is an enormous difference between service that just emerges spontaneously and passionately and service that comes out of guilt, of need for approval, of being worthy, of being good and so on. The latter comes from the mind; it just bounds out. The animals don't ask for much. People ask for enormous amounts. Is the avoiding people out of, "I don't want to feel all of that guilt and that pull on me because I would want to take care of them the way I would take care of my furries", as opposed to allowing it simply to bubble up spontaneously where it does. Look at this projection where you feel compelled to help others. Take it home and look into it. Is it truly in your heart to serve, or is this an attempt to hide from feelings of guilt, unworthiness, or un-lovableness? Look at the truth of these self judgments. The people in your life are providing this wonderful gift to you. Offer silent thanks and receive what is being presented. It is always about you and never about them. You want to open these gifts. It is not your job to fill yourself anymore than it is your job to serve others. Life is filling you at every moment. Let it.

Good Now

Sanhia/Spirit

April 2026

Hello Dear Friends,

Businesses will often offer a "loss leader", an item they will sell at a loss, hoping that you will do more shopping during your visit. Life also presents "loss leaders". Your losses can lead you out of an ego dominated existence, trading illusion for reality. What is truly of value can never be lost. What can be lost is never of lasting value. What is here is always the perfect thing. Accepting this allows you to be truly free.

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Michael

Every apparent loss is a divine invitation to release the story and rest in the perfect presence of Now.

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