Say No Without Guilt: A Soul Shift That Changes Everything

Tuesday, 17 June 2025 Written by Anna Merkaba Views: 11653

The Guilt That Follows Speaking Your Truth

Sometimes you speak your truth. You set a boundary. You say no.

And instead of feeling free, you feel… guilty.

You get a pit in your stomach. Your chest tightens. Your mind starts racing with thoughts like:

• Was I too harsh?
• Did I do something wrong?
• Am I a bad person?

You didn’t do something wrong. You did something rare.

You Honored Your Truth

That’s not bad—it’s brave. And yes, sometimes guilt follows bravery.

Because most of us were raised in systems that taught us our lovability was tied to our compliance.

We learned that saying yes made us good. And saying no made us selfish, cold, or cruel.

What Guilt Really Means

That guilt isn’t proof you did something wrong. It’s proof you’re interrupting a pattern that once kept you safe.

How to Reset Your Energy

So if your mind is racing… your body tense… you feel like you’re in trouble… here’s a short reset:

• Close your eyes (if that feels safe)
• Breathe slowly and gently
• Relax your jaw, shoulders, and belly
• Recall the moment you said no
• Notice where guilt is living in your body
• Place a hand on your heart and repeat:
  I am allowed to have boundaries. Saying no is an act of love.

The Guilt Isn’t Just About Today

The guilt you feel isn’t just about this moment. It’s about the child who was punished for standing up for themselves. The teen who stayed silent to keep the peace. The adult who kept giving, even when they were empty.

Speak to Your Younger Self

You’re not bad. You’re not in trouble. You are safe now. You can say no and still be loved.

Release the Guilt With Breath

Now see if you can soften just 5%.

Breathe in compassion for yourself. Breathe out the old story that says you’re only lovable when you please others.

Imagine the guilt as mist. With each exhale, it lifts. With each inhale, you draw in clarity, calm, and compassion.

You’re Not Failing — You’re Healing

You’re not wrong. You’re remembering what’s right for you.

Let These Words Land Deep

It is safe for me to have boundaries. I honor my no. I honor myself.

Let these words move through your nervous system. Let them settle into your bones. You’re doing something profound. You’re choosing self-trust over self-abandonment.

This Is What Healing Feels Like

Wobbly. Tender. Brave.

The people who are meant for you will respect your no.

Your energy will return. Your body will breathe easier. Your soul will sigh in relief.

Final Reminder

Your no matters. Your needs matter. Your healing matters.

And you’re already on your way.

~Anna Merkaba – Distant Energy Healer- Channeler – Lightworker. 

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