Everything Has A Purpose

Wednesday, 09 February 2022 Written by Belinda Davidson

Some years ago, my daughter started using the phrase, Everything has a purpose.

She was 8. I thought it was something she’d read somewhere, or it was a cool phrase that her school friends were using.

But she started to use it with more frequency. And it stayed over the years.

I also noticed that she was only saying it to me. And when things weren’t going well for me, particularly in 2018 - 2019, when I had my healing crisis and I was very unwell.

If you’ve been in my orbit for some time, you’ll know I don’t much care for the New Age, or their self-helpy talk.

Phrases like, God gives you only what you can handle. Or, You only attract good things if you think good things, really get on my goat. For me, Everything has a purpose, fits into that camp.

I was dumbfounded that a child from my 100% non-woo-woo, pragmatic, total realist womb would be saying such a thing.

But I decided to be curious about it instead of dismayed.

In those quiet moments, after I’d had an awful seizure, or a visit to emergency, Sarah would sit by my bedside, take my hand and calmly say, “It’s okay, Mama, everything has a reason.”

It wasn't clear to me what she actually meant, but I was going with it.

When her father and I separated, she said the same thing. When we were forced to move out of our home and to another due to COVID, she said the same thing.

Everything has a purpose.

When there was a medication mix-up, and it caused me a relapse seizure and I almost died, she said the same thing. When I shared my despair that it had been 3 years without creative direction, she said the same thing.

Everything has a purpose.

She obviously knew something I didn't.

One day in 2020, as we were leaving for school, I shared with Sarah that I was working on a new project. I didn’t know yet if it was going to be a book, or a course, or a process. But I was beginning to sense that I had a new purpose — help people discover theirs, and live it.

Enthusiastically, I shared with her that this felt like my new life direction, and I told her everything I had been writing and learning.

She turned around to face me, schoolbag hitched high, her tawn-coloured hair lit by the morning light, smile wide, showing the silver wire of her retainers, and said, with the voice of a one much older than 10, “See, I told you, everything has a purpose.”

She skipped off towards the car.

She’s never used that phrase again.

— Belinda

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