When happiness becomes visible…

This is something you witness again and again when meeting people in the Mastering Alchemy community. Almost everyone seems to be getting lighter, happier, and more radiant.

They look younger, more at ease, and they are smiling and laughing more. And people around them start to notice. Something begins to shine through them – a presence, a joy, a shift.

Maybe you are the one standing at the edge, waiting to give yourself full permission to smile, to be happy – freely, at any moment.

I remember the paradoxical moment when I actually felt worse because I was feeling better than others.

What helped me cross that invisible line and carry a smile without guilt or hesitation, was this realization:

“My state of being is my choice. I intentionally work to create my well-being. It’s not luck or coincidence – it’s the result of clear intention. I have nothing to hide, and nothing to apologize for.”

What happens when you’re smiling at the world?

People begin to approach you more often – sometimes just to share their struggles, frustrations, or confusion. And sometimes, they ask you directly: “What can I do to feel more like you?”

What do you say to someone who’s struggling? How can you support them – especially when you know you can’t fix them, and it’s clear they might not be ready to change as much as you have?

What can we offer?

I’d like to share four simple strategies I personally use when engaging with others – in case they might inspire you, too.

Strategy 1: Do Nothing. Be Happy.

If you’ve never witnessed this kind of miracle, let me assure you that simply staying fully in your space, centered in your own high vibration, can be one of the most powerful things you do.

When someone is pouring out their troubles like wildfire, hold your light. Be still. Surround yourself with your rose – or even a whole bouquet of roses, if needed. Use whatever tools you know to stay present, grounded, and high-vibrational. You don’t need to fix anything. Just be.

You might be surprised how often people come back later and say: “That conversation really helped me.” Even if you barely said a word.

Example:

I still remember the first time I truly managed to stay focused on myself during a conversation with someone close to me who was deeply stressed. It was challenging to hold a high vibration, but I stayed grounded, and surrounded myself with hundreds of roses to stay anchored on my side of the aura. I didn’t say much. I was mostly silent, fully present and deeply focused on my roses.

Afterwards, I felt terrible. I judged myself: “You were only thinking about yourself. You weren’t there for your friend.” The guilt was heavy.

But then, the next day, my friend called and told me that our conversation had helped her so much. She felt lighter, calmer and better.

Profound experiences like this can begin to rewrite old 3D beliefs about what it truly means to support someone.

Strategy 2: The Rose Tool

When someone asks you for help – especially when they’re caught in grief, family or work conflict, or emotional overwhelm – sharing the rose tool can be incredibly simple, elegant, and effective.

You might even want to keep the YouTube links to the Mastering Alchemy rose meditations on hand, ready to share.

I’ve learned that it’s important to adjust how you introduce it. My early enthusiasm: “You have to try this – it’s amazing!”, usually led to responses like: “I tried it yesterday. It didn’t work.” And I’d laugh – not at them, but at how deeply we’ve all been trained to expect instant results. Like planting a seed and expecting a full-grown plant an hour later.

So now, when I share the rose, I like to offer a little bit of science “behind the scenes” – something like this:

“When you focus on two things at once – the rose at the edge of your aura, and the person or situation in front of you – you anchor yourself in the present moment. Your brain simply doesn’t have enough capacity to spiral into anger or resentment. And that’s the real point. It’s not about the rose ‘fixing’ anything – it’s about you choosing a presence over reaction. Like any muscle, it just takes a little practice.”

With this explanation, you’re not throwing the rose away, you’re simply offering a first step into how it works, without overwhelming the person with mysticism or jargon. In truth, what you’re offering is maybe their very first taste of a quiet mind. A pause in the brain chatter. A glimpse into the fifth-dimensional field.

Strategy 3: Ask a Better Question

Strategy 3 is like a sibling of Strategy 1 – they share the same root: holding quiet, presence, and space. But the outcome is different.

When you meet somebody who’s caught in a loop of complaint or overwhelm, stay quiet, present, and aware. From that still place, a question may arise – something you can gently offer them.

These kinds of questions often create a pause. A breath. A crack in the loop.

Example:

A friend once dropped by for coffee between meetings, clearly overwhelmed. She had received a shocking phone call a few weeks earlier, and since then had been in fix-it mode – trying to manage everyone else’s response. She talked nonstop. I listened.

Then, toward the end, I asked her: “What if you had never received that phone call?”

She went quiet, froze for a second.

The next day, she told me it helped her find peace. She realized she’d been trying to control parts of the situation she simply couldn’t fix. That one question gave her just enough space to breathe.

These kinds of questions don’t come from the mind. They come from your quiet. As if you’re open to hear this question from your Higher Self, from the field itself, or even from their Soul, speaking through you.

Strategy 1 is about being a silent mirror – no words, no action, just presence. It’s the strategy that serves when no mental or verbal movement is needed at all.
Strategy 3 is about allowing that silence to occasionally bloom into a catalytic question. It’s activated when the other person’s field is ready for a subtle redirection, through inquiry.
Sometimes, the question doesn’t come. That’s not a failure – it’s simply a sign that silence is still the most coherent offering in that moment. Just hold the light. Presence is always enough.

Strategy 4: Words

This one takes a little more time to explain – but it’s my most favorite piece of advice to share, because it’s so simple and genuinely life-changing when people truly give it a try.

What I call the “Word Strategy” is a kind of harmonic neuro-rewiring. It blends three streams of wisdom:

• The healing prayer of Ho’oponopono
• The practice of “living words” from Mastering Alchemy
• Dr. Joe Dispenza’s insights into brain plasticity

Let’s start with Ho’oponopono – the Hawaiian practice of healing through simple phrases like:

• I’m sorry
• Please forgive me
• Thank you
• I love you

When repeated, these phrases become a form of emotional clearing and energetic harmonization. But many people struggle with “I’m sorry” or “Please forgive me.” That’s where Mastering Alchemy offers an elegant update:

Use the living words you want to feel, or experience. Words like:

• Complete
• Balanced
• Happy
• Serene
• At ease

And why is this technique so powerful?

Because our brain is not fixed. As Dr. Joe Dispenza’s research shows: neurons that fire together, wire together. Every time we think a thought like: “My boss hates me” or “My job is killing me,” we strengthen a specific neural pathway. Over time, those thoughtforms become superhighways – automatic, unconscious, and hard to exit.

You can’t just tell someone “Don’t think that.” It doesn’t work.

But you can give the brain something else to do.

When living words are consciously chosen and repeated over and over again, they become a kind of rescue line. They don’t suppress the old thoughts – they simply guide the brain onto a different neural pathway, so the old ones no longer fire and wire together. And when the new tracks are used more often, the old ones begin to collapse from disuse. Literally. Those old clusters of neurons become unstable.

So when the trigger returns – the stepmother, the job, the memory – the brain now has a choice. It can shift from the reactive mode to a pause, a breath, and begin to access new solutions that weren’t available before.

It doesn’t require anyone to believe in it. Just repeat the chosen words. And let the brain do what it was designed to do: rewire itself in the direction of peace and happiness.

For fun, I usually add my two favorite phrases at the end of my explanation:

• “Any word you repeat over and over again – even if it’s ‘dish sponge’ – will work just the same.”
• And second, to quote Ilhalekala Hew Lenn, “Don’t think about it, just do it!”

In Closing:

The most important reminder at the end is this:
Whatever you choose to share with others, if it’s offered with love and compassion, then once the conversation ends, dust off your sandals, and return to your own bright, joyful, present life.

And what about you? What do you say when someone shares their troubles or asks you for help and advice on how to be happy?

By guest author, Pavla

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