Category: Personal Development Written by Sophia Smith Views: 1568
Going through a break up is one of the most stressful and hurtful situations. A multitude of emotions hits you at once. Disappointment, pain, anger, sadness, and what is more, and in many cases, we are left with low self-esteem. If we were really close and dependent on our partner, it shows even more. So, one of the important things you should do to get over it and be yourself again is to rebuild it. With some of our helpful tips, you will be one step closer to having your self-confidence back.
Feel like yourself again
In most relationships, we lose a part of ourselves. This happens through forgetting about our hobbies, spending less time with our friends, or not listening to our needs as much. Breakups are the perfect time to regain all of that. Nothing will bring back your self-esteem like getting in touch with yourself and remembering who you were. Think about what makes you happy, what you enjoy and start doing those things again. It may look like you are taking small, insignificant steps, but your routine is what will help you and provide a sense of safety and familiarity.
It’s not a rarity that women in a relationship stop getting dressed up as much, or wearing makeup. One thing that can help you after it is getting back to your femininity and pampering yourself. We all know how shopping affects our brains, especially when we are hurting and it is actually a good strategy considering you know your limits. You don't have to go on a shopping spree. A detail like jewelry, wallet, scarf or a belt may have the same effect. You should check out ready to wear collection of belts if you want a quality item that will help you style any outfit. One more thing you should do is book a facial, which will freshen up your face, and make it glow again. Start wearing makeup a bit more, because it will also make you feel better and happier.
Don’t date right away
After a breakup, we are trying to fill the emptiness we feel and it is mostly by starting to date again and jumping from one person to another, hoping we will find somebody we like. This is a wrong strategy because we are dating for all the wrong reasons, and some of them are hoping to forget about our ex, looking for attention and approval, and maybe the worst of all doing so out of spite. Instead, you should concentrate on falling back in love with yourself. Write a list of all the things that make you amazing, and when you are ready to go back out there, you will know. This way, you will build confidence that is going to stay with you even in the next relationship.
Don’t isolate yourself
Wanting some time alone after a breakup is normal. However, you shouldn't isolate yourself completely and become unreachable. Let your friends and family help, at least by spending time with you. Most of the times, it is they who see things more objectively, and who will say what you need to hear to make you feel better. Having said this, don't talk about your ex too much, because all the overthinking and wondering will drive you crazy. Share your feelings, don't repress any emotions, be critical and open about everything, but don't obsess.
Work on yourself
After you have mourned your relationship, it is time to dedicate all your time and effort to yourself. Being single has many benefits as well, and one of the best is that you are free to work on yourself as much as you can. Taking cooking, dancing, or literature classes is a great way to stay positive, be around people and you are evolving in the meantime. Working out is also an effective way of dealing with it. Just think about it, whenever you feel sad or angry, you go for a run or to the gym, and you will feel much better afterwards. Another plus is that it will make you feel and look attractive, which is just another way of rebuilding your self-esteem.
Self-confidence loss after a breakup is in most cases the result of thinking too much about what went wrong, where did you go wrong or could you have changed the outcome. To be able to remove those thoughts from your head, working on your self-confidence is important, and the suggestions we listed here are a great way to start.
Sophia Smith is beauty and style blogger, an eco-lifestyle lover, graphic designer and a DIY enthusiast. She is very passionate about natural skincare, minimalist wardrobe, yoga and mindful living. Sophia writes mostly about beauty-related topics in her articles. She has contributed to a number of publications including: Eco Warrior Princess, Viva Glam Magazine, How to Simplify and Carousel.
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